Category Archives: Family Life

Living in The Netherlands: What to Bring with You

I was recently asked what would be an essential item to bring to the Netherlands if I was moving here. A loaded question – one I didn’t want to answer without serious consideration. Much depends on where you’re coming from, whether … Continue reading

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Older Parents: When to Step In

Good health is something I’ve generally taken for granted, my own and that of my family. We’ve been lucky over the years and despite some major issues with Missy, our daughter, last year, I’ve never thought of us as being … Continue reading

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Living in the Netherlands: The Good, The Bad and The Frustrating.

I first wrote about moving to the Netherlands several years ago when I’d had time to settle in and get established, but was still new enough to the Dutch culture to see it through fresh eyes. Since that original article … Continue reading

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A Sense of Place: Genetics and Travel

Have you ever traveled somewhere and felt instantly at home? Or arrived in a new place and felt a sense of disconnection you couldn’t put your finger on? I’m sure we all have, but why does it happen? I’ve arrived … Continue reading

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Unexpected Goodbyes: Part of the Package

We all know the poem about friends who are there for a reason, a season or a lifetime – how often do we see it forwarded on emails? It’s something we relate to and instinctively understand. Friendships in a global environment … Continue reading

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Role Models: Why Ordinary People are Mine

Last week saw the celebration for the birthday of a special lady. Someone who has recently survived breast cancer and who dealt with the prospect of chemotherapy and a double mastectomy with dignity and grace. There will have been quiet … Continue reading

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Empty Nest Syndrome: It’s Not All About the Kids Leaving

I promised myself I wouldn’t write anything further on the empty nest syndrome. Not because there’s nothing to write about, but because it’s an emotive subject for many, with parents on either side of the fence and the majority just … Continue reading

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An Inconvenient Posting: Everyone’s Had One

In its broadest sense an expat is defined as someone living outside his/ her birth country. There are various reasons for expats living overseas; some by choice, others following a company remit. For the latter, personal preference or convenience can … Continue reading

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Walking the Walk: The Reality of the Empty Nest

Having written a four-part series on the challenges of a child heading off for college, (see below for links) I’m now having to put that sage advice to the test. A few weeks back my husband and I headed off … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: After They’ve Gone

Part 4 in a series of 4 So they’ve finally headed off into the big wide world. Whether you’ve taken them yourself or because of circumstances that responsibility has been passed to another family member, the time comes you find … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: Changing Family Dynamics

Part 3 in a series of 4 Whether a child is leaving home for college or because they choose to, parental emotions will run high. From the first time you held them to the day you wave them goodbye you … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: The Practical Stuff for Heading Overseas

Part 2 in a series of 4 It was a pretty big can of worms I opened with my first post on college bound kids. I had no idea all those cool, calm and collected mom’s packing their kids up … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids? You’re Not On Your Own…

Part 1 in a series of 4  What a strange time of year. So far summer has been non-existent in The Hague and yet in a few weeks school will be back for the fall semester. Expat families will be … Continue reading

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IB Diploma: The Only Way Forward for Global Education

Throughout the world thousands of students are waiting for the results of their IB (International Baccalaureate) examinations sat in May and June. They are the culmination of two years of blood, sweat, tears, sleepless nights and some hard partying once … Continue reading

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Light Bulb Moments: Recognizing the ‘Monkey Mind’

Ever heard the expression ‘monkey mind’? For those of you rolling your eyes in disbelief that once again I’m behind on things, please bear with me. I only came across this recently, in the process of editing a book. I … Continue reading

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James Brownhill: Moving Forward

A year ago James Stephen Brownhill was tragically killed, alongside his climbing partner and friend, David Evans, during an ascent of Mont Blanc. A peak previously climbed  along with others on different continents. A year in which everyone who knew … Continue reading

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Flying Solo with KLM

The past three months I’ve been bouncing backwards and forwards across the Altlantic every few weeks or so. Before I have time to adjust to being back in one time zone I’m hurtled into the other, a seven-hour time difference … Continue reading

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PVC: The Journey Continues

This week finds me back in Houston in time for Lizzy’s surgery to relieve Pelvic Vascular Congestion. (I chronicled her journey to here a couple of posts back). I have to admit this trip was not as hopeful as my … Continue reading

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PVC: Raising Awareness of a Chronic Female Condition

I have no wish to publically discuss my family’s health, yet a family member, let’s call her Lizzy, has been dealing with a little known health issue we had no idea existed, which impacts the lives of countless woman worldwide. … Continue reading

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The Expat Good Samaritan: Cultural Attitudes to Caring

Whether you’re a serial expat moving from country to country with the huge machine of a global company, working in a foreign country under your own steam or emigrate from one country to another, there will be times when disaster … Continue reading

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The End Day of the Year

The end days of the year; the hiatus between Christmas and the start of the new year. Strange days with a dreamlike quality, slightly out of focus and removed from the reality of day-to-day routines. A sense of anti-climax after … Continue reading

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Hallmark Holidays and the Cyber Dilemma

The annual dilemma – the Christmas card list. To send or not to send. Who has made the list this year and who hasn’t. Send to local friends or only those outside a geographically defined area? Are acquaintances defined as … Continue reading

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Thanksgiving: The Purest Holiday Of Them All

Growing up in Europe I’d never given much thought to Thanksgiving, except as an American holiday at the end of November. I knew it commemorated the pilgrims first year of survival in the New World and that was about it. … Continue reading

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Dutch Car Insurance: You’re On Your Own

We all have those times when negative energy seems to stick to us like glue, overshadowing everyday life with lethargy, leaving us dispirited and resentful without fully understanding why. It saps strength and creativity, sucking away fun and joy as … Continue reading

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Law and Order Dutch Style: Impersonating a Police Officer

Last weekend our youngest son experienced a rite of passage we had hoped he could have avoided, unlike his older siblings. With much high-fiving from them, he joined their ranks, having come into contact with the local constabulary during a … Continue reading

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Creativity and Talent: Don’t Dismiss The X factor

One thing I rarely admit to, certainly not publicly, is that I love what many people regard as scraping-the-barrel TV; American Idol and now the USA version of the X-factor. Recording the programme I fast forward through the dross, which … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids: So You Think They’re Smart?

This was first posted when our middle child was in her freshman year at LSU. As the first reports trickle back of how this years new under-grads are faring, let this be a warning for parents… for the record, the … Continue reading

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And the Dog Came Too: Travelling with Expat Pets

The often forgotten passengers in a life of global gallivanting are the unsung heroes who are dragged hither and thither, without discussion or consideration of climate; our family pets. Now I know there are people who have cats and idolize … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: Keeping in Touch Across Time Zones

Part two of a series of four – suggest you pour a cup of coffee and kick back, this is a bit of a long one. It’s a tough subject. You’re now into the final days/ weeks before college starts … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: You’re not alone

What a strange time of year. So far summer has been non-existent in The Hague and yet in a few weeks school will be back for the fall semester. Expat families will soon be returning from their summer travels to … Continue reading

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‘Finding My New Normal’ – A Balloon for your Son

Last year when I first started writing this blog, I began following another, launched around the same time, written by an American living in London. I’d clicked into her blog having no idea what it was about, intrigued by it’s title … Continue reading

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Mammogram Screening Makes No Difference to Breast Cancer Mortality Rates? Seriously?

A girlfriend alerted me on Facebook yesterday that ‘analysts from 6 EU countries (inc. NL) suggest Mammogram screening has had no effect on breast cancer mortality.’  Excuse me? It took a bit of time for that to sink in at which … Continue reading

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Expat Arrivals: Newbies in Town part 1

It’s that time of year again; after weeks of frenetic activity in June and early July with people packing up and moving out, the tide has turned. The first container trucks are appearing on the narrow leafy streets of Wassenaar … Continue reading

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A Period of Solitude: Why We Sometimes Need One

I haven’t posted for a while as sometimes life necessitates taking a step back, pulling up the drawbridge and keeping yourself and family safe in the Ivory Tower. Protected, for a while, from the devastating whirlwinds of sadness, loss, fear, … Continue reading

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Every Parent’s Worst Fear

If you’ve been anywhere near newspapers the past week or so you can’t have failed to have noticed the untimely deaths of many young people. I wrote only a few posts back about the sister of Missy’s best friend, killed as … Continue reading

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When the Captain decided to check out the quality of Canadian Emergency Care

Wherever our family live or travel one of the first things we do is check out where to find the local hospital, or more importantly their Emergency Room. The first person I met on arriving in the Netherlands, Karen, admitted … Continue reading

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My Father’s Greatest Gift

He’s never said, but I rather think my dad would have liked a son to share his macho interests, but being the man he is, decided to make the best of a bad job. From an early age I could … Continue reading

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Kids Home Alone: Part II – The Installation of a Plastic Hot Tub

. . . continued from the previous post, in which we returned home from a weekend away to discover all was not quite as we had left it . . . I was still seething at the maltreatment of my … Continue reading

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Kids Home Alone: Part I – What’s the Right Age?

OK we’re back, feeling a tad grouchy after having to deal with the cross Channel ferry . . .  technically, according to the Captain, the trans North Sea ferry as we’re nowhere near the Channel travelling Hull to Rotterdam. I … Continue reading

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Why writing sometimes has to take a backseat

A short post I’m afraid. Today is Sunday of a holiday weekend and the Captain and I are in England to celebrate a major birthday of our dear friend Michael. We are staying with him and wife Trish at the new home … Continue reading

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Death and the Expat: When Sad News Arrives

I have to admit to feeling a little heavy hearted today. I’ve just written two condolence letters – one to a dear friend who has lost her mother and the other to her father who has lost his wife of over 60 years. … Continue reading

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Who Dat?: Friendly Faces in Foreign Places

A while back driving home from Schiphol (Amsterdam) Airport, the Captain and I experienced something which got me thinking about how we react when we meet fellow countrymen thousands of miles from home. Our American home is New Orleans; I’ve … Continue reading

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Dutch Workmen: Tips On Understanding The Tribe

I’ve been doing some unofficial research of late into the habits and behaviour of Dutch workmen. I say unofficial because it’s more observation than research and has happened only because we have decorators repainting the exterior of our building. It’s supposedly a twelve … Continue reading

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Garden Gnomes and Pink Flamingos: The Ultimate in Taste

In the previous blog I wrote about how some people judge or pigeonhole others by the way they speak, which led me to wonder why people are also judgemental about other folks’ belongings, their choice of furniture, the way they decorate their homes. Who it is that dictates what … Continue reading

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Rumblings in Expatland: Trailing, Accompanying, Stellar or Other?

There are discernible rumblings in expat land. It’s divisive stuff. Way back in the spring at the FIGT (Families in Global Transition) Conference in Washington DC, there was a move to redefine the term used to describe the spouse-following-the-spouse-with-the-job. That’s the … Continue reading

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DIY: Household Chores and the Retention of Sanity

We have been busy catching up on the home front, trying to pull in all those niggling little household jobs that have been outstanding for months. The Captain refuses to pay the exorbitant cost of having a man do the … Continue reading

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The Best Thing About Living Overseas?

One thing we’ve really enjoyed having lived away from our birth country is the wonderful variety of people we’ve been lucky enough to come across. It has been a real bonus to meet interesting, smart and culturally different citizens from all corners … Continue reading

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Family Travels and Unaccompanied Children

There’s something rather nice about returning home from travelling, even if home is in a foreign country. It’s a feeling of having survived a mission during which so much could have gone wrong. As I mentioned a few posts ago, getting out of … Continue reading

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My Father and Other Animals

Having taught my sister and myself to ride bikes my father saw no reason not to apply similar methods to riding horses. He taught himself to ride by chasing down the milkman’s horse, which was guaranteed to be found relaxing at … Continue reading

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Trains, Boats and Planes: The Easter Getaway

We are leaving on the overnight ferry to Hull – the aim is at arrive at the ferry terminal with everything we planned on bringing and leaving nothing behind. I’m not good at travelling, or rather I’m not good at getting out of … Continue reading

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