Category Archives: Expat Experiences

The Non-Expat Expat: Not Fitting The Box

We’ve lived away from our birth country for 20 years and a lot’s happened in that time – we moved to the USA, raised a family, took American citizenship, relocated back to Europe and will move on again. The first two … Continue reading

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Living in The Netherlands: What to Bring with You

I was recently asked what would be an essential item to bring to the Netherlands if I was moving here. A loaded question – one I didn’t want to answer without serious consideration. Much depends on where you’re coming from, whether … Continue reading

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Older Parents: When to Step In

Good health is something I’ve generally taken for granted, my own and that of my family. We’ve been lucky over the years and despite some major issues with Missy, our daughter, last year, I’ve never thought of us as being … Continue reading

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Transitions: Life’s Waiting Rooms

The carpeted floor beneath my bare feet pitches gently and I realise the ship has left the placid calm of the harbour, cleared the rocky promontories encircling its entrance, and moved out into open water. The movement is almost imperceptible, … Continue reading

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Living in the Netherlands: The Good, The Bad and The Frustrating.

I first wrote about moving to the Netherlands several years ago when I’d had time to settle in and get established, but was still new enough to the Dutch culture to see it through fresh eyes. Since that original article … Continue reading

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A Sense of Place: Genetics and Travel

Have you ever traveled somewhere and felt instantly at home? Or arrived in a new place and felt a sense of disconnection you couldn’t put your finger on? I’m sure we all have, but why does it happen? I’ve arrived … Continue reading

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Dutch Delights: The Magic of Winter Days

The first snow day of the winter and in its wake the dreary, endless days of the Dutch fall are forgotten. Day after day of leaden skies, like a dirty, heavy, sodden blanket thrown over the country, dripping constantly, suffocating … Continue reading

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Frank and Fearless: Facing 2013

The end days of the year, the cusp of the past with the future, when most people are out of their normal routine and daily structure. Add school holidays, more family socialising, a change in diet and it’s no wonder … Continue reading

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Unexpected Goodbyes: Part of the Package

We all know the poem about friends who are there for a reason, a season or a lifetime – how often do we see it forwarded on emails? It’s something we relate to and instinctively understand. Friendships in a global environment … Continue reading

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Role Models: Why Ordinary People are Mine

Last week saw the celebration for the birthday of a special lady. Someone who has recently survived breast cancer and who dealt with the prospect of chemotherapy and a double mastectomy with dignity and grace. There will have been quiet … Continue reading

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Empty Nest Syndrome: It’s Not All About the Kids Leaving

I promised myself I wouldn’t write anything further on the empty nest syndrome. Not because there’s nothing to write about, but because it’s an emotive subject for many, with parents on either side of the fence and the majority just … Continue reading

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An Inconvenient Posting: Everyone’s Had One

In its broadest sense an expat is defined as someone living outside his/ her birth country. There are various reasons for expats living overseas; some by choice, others following a company remit. For the latter, personal preference or convenience can … Continue reading

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Walking the Walk: The Reality of the Empty Nest

Having written a four-part series on the challenges of a child heading off for college, (see below for links) I’m now having to put that sage advice to the test. A few weeks back my husband and I headed off … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: After They’ve Gone

Part 4 in a series of 4 So they’ve finally headed off into the big wide world. Whether you’ve taken them yourself or because of circumstances that responsibility has been passed to another family member, the time comes you find … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: Changing Family Dynamics

Part 3 in a series of 4 Whether a child is leaving home for college or because they choose to, parental emotions will run high. From the first time you held them to the day you wave them goodbye you … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: The Practical Stuff for Heading Overseas

Part 2 in a series of 4 It was a pretty big can of worms I opened with my first post on college bound kids. I had no idea all those cool, calm and collected mom’s packing their kids up … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids? You’re Not On Your Own…

Part 1 in a series of 4  What a strange time of year. So far summer has been non-existent in The Hague and yet in a few weeks school will be back for the fall semester. Expat families will be … Continue reading

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IB Diploma: The Only Way Forward for Global Education

Throughout the world thousands of students are waiting for the results of their IB (International Baccalaureate) examinations sat in May and June. They are the culmination of two years of blood, sweat, tears, sleepless nights and some hard partying once … Continue reading

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Light Bulb Moments: Recognizing the ‘Monkey Mind’

Ever heard the expression ‘monkey mind’? For those of you rolling your eyes in disbelief that once again I’m behind on things, please bear with me. I only came across this recently, in the process of editing a book. I … Continue reading

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Flying Solo with KLM

The past three months I’ve been bouncing backwards and forwards across the Altlantic every few weeks or so. Before I have time to adjust to being back in one time zone I’m hurtled into the other, a seven-hour time difference … Continue reading

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Queen’s Day: The Quieter Side

I’ve decided to share the quieter side of Queen’s Day, Koninginnedag,  a day to celebrate the birthday of the former Queen, Juliana. The present Queen, Beatrix, spends the day with members of the Royal family, visiting towns throughout the Netherlands. … Continue reading

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PVC: The Journey Continues

This week finds me back in Houston in time for Lizzy’s surgery to relieve Pelvic Vascular Congestion. (I chronicled her journey to here a couple of posts back). I have to admit this trip was not as hopeful as my … Continue reading

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PVC: Raising Awareness of a Chronic Female Condition

I have no wish to publically discuss my family’s health, yet a family member, let’s call her Lizzy, has been dealing with a little known health issue we had no idea existed, which impacts the lives of countless woman worldwide. … Continue reading

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The Expat Good Samaritan: Cultural Attitudes to Caring

Whether you’re a serial expat moving from country to country with the huge machine of a global company, working in a foreign country under your own steam or emigrate from one country to another, there will be times when disaster … Continue reading

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Global Tax : Inescapable and Unrelenting

It’s February and there’s that sinking feeling in my stomach. Not the winter blues, instead the gargantuan beast from hell, the preparation of the annual tax returns. You can’t forget about it, or pretend it’s not happening, stick fingers in your … Continue reading

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Managing Expectations: The Dutch Health Service

Before we start I’d like to make it absolutely clear that on arrival in any foreign country, whether to live, work or take a vacation my expectation of the local health care systems is always neutral. This avoids confusion should … Continue reading

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Mental Sabbatical: A Time to Step Back

After the New Year and a return to the Netherlands from visiting friends and family, I did something inconceivable only a few months previously. I decided to take a step back from life, review it and decide whether anything needed … Continue reading

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The End Day of the Year

The end days of the year; the hiatus between Christmas and the start of the new year. Strange days with a dreamlike quality, slightly out of focus and removed from the reality of day-to-day routines. A sense of anti-climax after … Continue reading

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Hallmark Holidays and the Cyber Dilemma

The annual dilemma – the Christmas card list. To send or not to send. Who has made the list this year and who hasn’t. Send to local friends or only those outside a geographically defined area? Are acquaintances defined as … Continue reading

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The Dutch 30% Tax Rule and International Teachers

I’ve written about the Dutch 30% tax ruling before, a topic foremost in most expats’ minds during the annual tax period. This year the topic gained the status of national debate when the junior tax minister, Frans Weekers, considered introducing an income … Continue reading

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Thanksgiving: The Purest Holiday Of Them All

Growing up in Europe I’d never given much thought to Thanksgiving, except as an American holiday at the end of November. I knew it commemorated the pilgrims first year of survival in the New World and that was about it. … Continue reading

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Dutch Car Insurance: Standing Up To Intimidation

I have just had a very interesting discussion with the insurance agent dealing with our stolen car. Whilst I would love to on move on to lighter topics of an uplifting nature, the wheels that are the insurance company  have ground … Continue reading

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Law and Order Dutch Style: Impersonating a Police Officer

Last weekend our youngest son experienced a rite of passage we had hoped he could have avoided, unlike his older siblings. With much high-fiving from them, he joined their ranks, having come into contact with the local constabulary during a … Continue reading

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Somewhere Between Anna Wintour and Citizen Kane

The next great adventure and literary project? A concept and vision which first appeared on my horizon at the beginning of September. A dream graphic designer, Simone Branson, has nurtured since her late teens. The product of a British father … Continue reading

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Lest We Forget: All War Crimes Should Be Punished

Twenty years ago war erupted in the former Yugoslavia. It was shocking, terrifying and reminded us the atrocities of World War II weren’t relegated to history as we’d hoped. The war in the former Yugoslavia brought it home that neighbour … Continue reading

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Grand Theft Auto : The Bureaucracy Begins

. . . a continuation from previously, when I entered our secure garage to find my car gone . . . There was an awful blank moment when the enormity of the empty space hit me like a train. Where … Continue reading

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Grand Theft Auto : And Not The Computer Game

I know many of you will be wondering where I’ve been, why there have been no entertaining posts to read and absorb over morning coffee for most of the past week. My apologies; I take my coffee duties seriously and … Continue reading

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Expat Tax: What the Dutch Really Think

Catching up on the Dutch news today I was stopped in my tracks by an item headed ‘Minister to stop 30% tax ruling . . .’  and didn’t read any further. For those who don’t know (and why would you?) … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids: So You Think They’re Smart?

This was first posted when our middle child was in her freshman year at LSU. As the first reports trickle back of how this years new under-grads are faring, let this be a warning for parents… for the record, the … Continue reading

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Cultural Insensitivity 9/11: When Journalists should not have an Opinion

Monday morning, getting started on the week. Catching up on emails and media coverage getting a feel for what’s happening in the world. I subscribe to blogs sent automatically by email. It’s a professional interest if you will, seeing what fellow … Continue reading

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S.A.D or Just Sad?: The Legacy of the Dutch Summer

I have bemoaned the non-arrival of the Dutch summer for well, the whole of the summer. Much was promised in the warm, soft days of spring when we could venture outdoors sans sweaters and coats, absorb the warming sunlight through our … Continue reading

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And the Dog Came Too: Travelling with Expat Pets

The often forgotten passengers in a life of global gallivanting are the unsung heroes who are dragged hither and thither, without discussion or consideration of climate; our family pets. Now I know there are people who have cats and idolize … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: Keeping in Touch Across Time Zones

Part two of a series of four – suggest you pour a cup of coffee and kick back, this is a bit of a long one. It’s a tough subject. You’re now into the final days/ weeks before college starts … Continue reading

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College Bound Kids?: You’re not alone

What a strange time of year. So far summer has been non-existent in The Hague and yet in a few weeks school will be back for the fall semester. Expat families will soon be returning from their summer travels to … Continue reading

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Brothels Closed at 10pm and No Magic Mushrooms? In AMSTERDAM?

One thing with living in the Netherlands, visitors are always asking about the drug culture and sex industry. It’s a source of great fascination to many people that the Dutch are tolerant and open about these less than respectable, by the … Continue reading

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Mammogram Screening Makes No Difference to Breast Cancer Mortality Rates? Seriously?

A girlfriend alerted me on Facebook yesterday that ‘analysts from 6 EU countries (inc. NL) suggest Mammogram screening has had no effect on breast cancer mortality.’  Excuse me? It took a bit of time for that to sink in at which … Continue reading

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Expat Arrivals: Newbies in Town part 1

It’s that time of year again; after weeks of frenetic activity in June and early July with people packing up and moving out, the tide has turned. The first container trucks are appearing on the narrow leafy streets of Wassenaar … Continue reading

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Mont Blanc: In Memorium

In memory of James Stephen Brownhill       30 September 1988, Sheffield, UK – 1 July 2011, Frendo Spur,Chamonix, France I have written about James, his family and his life elsewhere, this page is to quietly acknowledge their loss, and … Continue reading

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Repatriation of the Deceased: If You Die Overseas Die in The Netherlands

I did have a mental debate as to whether I should write about today’s topic. After listening to both sides for several days I’ve decided we’re all adults and can deal with grown up things. Ever given a thought to what … Continue reading

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USA Consulate in Amsterdam: A Little Taste of Home

I had cause this week to head up to the US Consulate in Amsterdam. We had received a phone call from Harry whilst we were on vacation that his US passport had expired 3 months ago. Why he was even checking … Continue reading

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