Category Archives: Expat Experiences

A Period of Solitude: Why We Sometimes Need One

I haven’t posted for a while as sometimes life necessitates taking a step back, pulling up the drawbridge and keeping yourself and family safe in the Ivory Tower. Protected, for a while, from the devastating whirlwinds of sadness, loss, fear, … Continue reading

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Dutch Sending the Poles Home?

So the Dutch are considering sending Polish and other east Europeans home? I didn’t read the full story immediately as my brain went into complete melt down and shock at the thought of the Dutch economy grinding to a halt … Continue reading

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Every Parent’s Worst Fear

If you’ve been anywhere near newspapers the past week or so you can’t have failed to have noticed the untimely deaths of many young people. I wrote only a few posts back about the sister of Missy’s best friend, killed as … Continue reading

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And I thought the Dutch Were Tolerant

Last night after a day driving down and around Victoria BC, we settled with our hosts to watch a movie. Nothing too challenging but with enough entertainment value to stop us drifting off to sleep. John Grisham’s The Rainmaker suited … Continue reading

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When the Captain decided to check out the quality of Canadian Emergency Care

Wherever our family live or travel one of the first things we do is check out where to find the local hospital, or more importantly their Emergency Room. The first person I met on arriving in the Netherlands, Karen, admitted … Continue reading

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From the Netherlands to British Columbia, Canada: A Treat for the Weary Spirit

All is well in British Columbia, this western bastion of Canada, where the looming mountains of Vancouver Island protect its eastern isles from the wrath and might of the vast Pacific Ocean. Nestling in its protective embrace the day dawns stealthily … Continue reading

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Schiphol, Heathrow, Vancouver, Thetis Island: Traveling to the Edge of the World

When the Captain announced we would be traveling to Vancouver via London Heathrow‘s Terminal five I must admit to an involuntary shudder and a dampening of my usual high spirits.  Why couldn’t we fly direct from Schiphol, our local airport in … Continue reading

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My Father’s Greatest Gift

He’s never said, but I rather think my dad would have liked a son to share his macho interests, but being the man he is, decided to make the best of a bad job. From an early age I could … Continue reading

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Kids Home Alone: Part II – The Installation of a Plastic Hot Tub

. . . continued from the previous post, in which we returned home from a weekend away to discover all was not quite as we had left it . . . I was still seething at the maltreatment of my … Continue reading

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Kids Home Alone: Part I – What’s the Right Age?

OK we’re back, feeling a tad grouchy after having to deal with the cross Channel ferry . . .  technically, according to the Captain, the trans North Sea ferry as we’re nowhere near the Channel travelling Hull to Rotterdam. I … Continue reading

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Why Holland is the Worst Country for Drivers

Excuse me while I take a moment to swallow some heavy-duty Tylenol (to stop the pulsating banging in my head) washed down with something even stronger to subdue the need to kill anyone who comes into my field of vision. The … Continue reading

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Death and the Expat: When Sad News Arrives

I have to admit to feeling a little heavy hearted today. I’ve just written two condolence letters – one to a dear friend who has lost her mother and the other to her father who has lost his wife of over 60 years. … Continue reading

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Who Dat?: Friendly Faces in Foreign Places

A while back driving home from Schiphol (Amsterdam) Airport, the Captain and I experienced something which got me thinking about how we react when we meet fellow countrymen thousands of miles from home. Our American home is New Orleans; I’ve … Continue reading

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Dutch Workmen: Tips On Understanding The Tribe

I’ve been doing some unofficial research of late into the habits and behaviour of Dutch workmen. I say unofficial because it’s more observation than research and has happened only because we have decorators repainting the exterior of our building. It’s supposedly a twelve … Continue reading

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Left behind, and I’m not talking about the Rapture

This is not a subject I particularly want to talk about and is unashamedly personal but it’s something I’m sure many people will relate to. I’m talking the bad, sad side of living in an expat community when friends move on. Now before everyone starts giving … Continue reading

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Garden Gnomes and Pink Flamingos: The Ultimate in Taste

In the previous blog I wrote about how some people judge or pigeonhole others by the way they speak, which led me to wonder why people are also judgemental about other folks’ belongings, their choice of furniture, the way they decorate their homes. Who it is that dictates what … Continue reading

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If The Accent Fits, Should We Wear It?

Struggling this morning with a thumping headache brought on by an accidental glue-sniffing incident (long story) I was rather concerned I wouldn’t be able to think of anything to blog about. Getting the grey matter going was a slow job, until I … Continue reading

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Rumblings in Expatland: Trailing, Accompanying, Stellar or Other?

There are discernible rumblings in expat land. It’s divisive stuff. Way back in the spring at the FIGT (Families in Global Transition) Conference in Washington DC, there was a move to redefine the term used to describe the spouse-following-the-spouse-with-the-job. That’s the … Continue reading

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Why Getting Fit is a Dangerous Occupation: And the Dog is to Blame

I’ve procrastinated long enough. I’ve checked my email, Facebook, bank account, daily newspapers (Europe and the US), sorted laundry and scheduled my research and work for the day.  I can delay no more, not without starting to do the most mundane of … Continue reading

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The Best Thing About Living Overseas?

One thing we’ve really enjoyed having lived away from our birth country is the wonderful variety of people we’ve been lucky enough to come across. It has been a real bonus to meet interesting, smart and culturally different citizens from all corners … Continue reading

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Family Travels and Unaccompanied Children

There’s something rather nice about returning home from travelling, even if home is in a foreign country. It’s a feeling of having survived a mission during which so much could have gone wrong. As I mentioned a few posts ago, getting out of … Continue reading

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Foreign Invasion: When the Tourists Arrive

The sun is beaming gloriously from a blue sky and it’s two days to go to the Easter weekend. As a family we hate traveling at peak holiday periods, we know Schiphol airport (Amsterdam) will be bursting at the seams … Continue reading

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Preparing For The Worst: Death of a Spouse Overseas

A change of pace today, caused by some sad news which has me thinking deeply. Everyone has a file stored in the back of their mind under ‘things I’d rather not think about’  but which anyone living overseas has thought about quietly and planned … Continue reading

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Keukenhof: The Jewel in the Crown of The Netherlands

What I didn’t mention in The Perfect Palette : The Netherlands in Spring and what anyone living here would think of when you put ‘spring’ and ‘The Netherlands’ in the same sentence – the Keukenhof The reason, dear readers, is because I’ve saved … Continue reading

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The Coven Convenes

I make no apologies for continuing the theme of Fond Farewells and Private Tears  – it will be the last time I talk about my girlfriends, for a while at least. I wanted to explain why they, and my other friends, are so are … Continue reading

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Fond Farewells and Private Tears

Blogs the next few days will be a little different. Under normal circumstances I wouldn’t blog at all, but having taken on a challenge to blog every day for thirty days straight one has to get a little, well, resourceful. The … Continue reading

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Filed and Finished – Finally

I have to admit to feeling a little pleased with myself today. I wouldn’t go so far as to say smug because that would be tempting the fates, we don’t have to poke them with a stick to get their … Continue reading

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And Death Came Third: Facing Your Fears

I was chatting with someone recently and they mentioned a book whose title has played on my mind ever since. Called And Death Came Third, it was the title which initially caught my interest. I haven’t read the book (yet) but the idea … Continue reading

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Dutch Death and Taxes: Where There’s a Will There’s a Lawyer

This week has seen the Captain and I have our annual meeting with our Dutch and US accountants – enough angst to put both of us in need of a long vacation somewhere warm, with hammocks, and 24-hour room service. … Continue reading

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Girlfriends and Sunny Days

I have written far too many words this week and it is the weekend, so perhaps a shorter blog may be allowed. Yesterday I decided to have some down time after a hectic week and was looking forward to a … Continue reading

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Loving your Dutch Bike

Ask anyone to think of anything Dutch and I guarantee the top four will be, in no particular order, tulips, windmills, clogs and bikes. Bikes will always be listed – they are such an ingrained part of Dutch life and … Continue reading

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Dutch Rules and Regulations

There’s no getting away from it, the Dutch are a nation managed by infinite rules and regulations. They are there for a reason, they work and are immoveable. Even Moses would have had a tough time without the Ten Commandments in … Continue reading

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Question: What is An Expat?

According to the OED (Oxford English Dictionary) – for me the only font of knowledge when it comes to definitive explanation of all words English – ‘expatriate’ is defined as, ‘To expel, remove oneself from homeland; withdraw oneself from citizenship or … Continue reading

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Spring Time and Dutch Delights: Dutch Leisure Pursuits

Finally after six long months of cold, wet and dark the Spring Equinox has arrived, the first day in the year when day and night are of equal length. From now until September 21 the days will be longer than the … Continue reading

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Boomerang Kids

Life is pretty interesting in our house right now, especially for Missy who has moved back into the bosom of her family after graduating in December. This is not the scenario she had planned as she stood on the verge of … Continue reading

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Disaster and Tragedy: The Emotional Cost

In 2001 I spent days watching footage from Japan. Then last week Hurricane Sandy. What struck me with both was my utter numbness. It seems inhuman and inhumane to admit this in the face of such horror and suffering on … Continue reading

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So How Would You Define Success?

Why is it when I’m with a group of smart, confident and self-assured women I come home feeling like an inadequate underachiever? There is no logical reason to feel like this, they say and do nothing to belittle or deflate … Continue reading

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Negative? Moi?

There have been grave rumblings in our household of late which were finally verbalised over dinner the other night.  It seems my family members are concerned by – in their opinion – negative aspects in my blogs on life in the … Continue reading

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Leash Laws and Dog Wardens

The bell tolls long and loud for all Dutch dog owners from 1 March through to 1 August. The annual leash laws mean rather than running freely through public parks and woodland (in slow motion with the theme to Chariots of … Continue reading

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Raunchy Daffodils and Randy Tulips: Learning the Lingo Part III

February, and those fragile signs that winter is finally drawing to a close and spring is just around the corner. Spending time outdoors walking the Archster I’m perhaps more aware than most of the changing seasons – when the first snowdrops appear and … Continue reading

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Cataracts and Breast Implants: Learning the Lingo Part II

This was one of those times I dreaded (there have been many) when the reality of living in a foreign country and not having a complete command of the language can cause undue anxiety and stress. I sat in the bright … Continue reading

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New Orleans – Proud to Have Called Her Home

 It is the traveler with real soul who will go beyond the guide books and tourist hype to find the beating heart of a place and the rhythm of the people who live there. If you are someone who feels … Continue reading

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Life’s Certainties: the Dutch and Taxes

It’s January and there’s that sinking feeling in my stomach. Not the winter blues, nor the realisation that the New Years Resolution to lose 10 lbs by the end of the month is a lost cause. No, this is the gargantuan … Continue reading

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How the English Approach Language Learning: Learning the Lingo Part I

The Captain and I settled into uncomfortable silence, looking down at the space between us. We had made an executive decision to, maybe, engage the services of a private Dutch tutor to finally get to grips with the language. There … Continue reading

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January Blues and Southern Belles

I’m ashamed to admit I’ve been feeling a tad low and rather sorry for myself. It may be due to our plague-ridden Christmas/ New Year and ingesting a cocktail of heavy-duty antibiotics and foreign over-the-counter-medication which have left me looking for the … Continue reading

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Diplomatic Incidents In the Sick Bed

I have been forced back to bed for the day by my husband, not for the bliss of carnal delights, but because he seems to think I’m ‘going down with something’. The possibility of the domestic helm being unmanned has galvanised him into action, … Continue reading

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Expat Kids Home for Christmas – In a Place They’ve Never Lived

I know, I know. We all feel that sense of anti-climax after Christmas. The present buying and wrapping, decorating the house, cooking, getting excited for the children coming home, travelling to friends and family, constant activity and mania – then … Continue reading

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Planes, Trains and Snowmobiles

  Here we go again. Further adventures in the Snowmobile. The Captain is en route from Harwich along with refugees from the nightmare of Heathrow and the other London airports. Guess who’s designated to pick him up? I’m also collecting Don and Stuart, … Continue reading

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Wassenaar White-out

 I’m done with the snow and you can cancel Christmas too. We woke up this morning to the wonderful light and deep quiet of a new snowfall, a real magical winter wonderland. Like an idiot I’d promised Harry I’d drive … Continue reading

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Expat Moms and Global Sisters

Today I feel especially close to expat moms like me who are counting down the days and hours to their off-spring heading ‘home’ for the Holidays. As a family, we’ve celebrated Christmas in the same way every year – familiar food, … Continue reading

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